It’s Not Your Fault! 5 Secret Reasons Why Organization for Moms Feels So Hard

Have you ever considered what would happen if we stopped treating the goal of organization as this destination that we are able to reach and stay there forever?

Did you know, there are five secret reasons why organization for moms feels overwhelming and hard for us to actually achieve and maintain?

So let’s dive deeper into this topic in today’s episode. We want to continue to take away the blame that we unknowingly place on ourselves when we are feeling frustrated that our home or our life is still a mess.

Instead we need to feel encouraged knowing that there are all these little things that can hold us back from being organized.

Another problem is that quite often we aren’t even aware of most of these problems. That’s why I called them secrets.

Once someone tells us or once we become aware of these things and we can put them behind us, we will start to feel encouraged. As well as start to feel excited again about all of the possibilities that come with where we can go with our organization journey.

5 Secret Reasons Why Organization for Moms is Hard

This is on my heart because I actually have come up with a total of seven reasons and ten beliefs that can hold us back from getting organized as busy moms.

So there’s actually a lot more that I came up with that goes on behind this. But I just want to talk to you about the first five things today for the sake of time.

The Overall Problem When We Don’t Know These Secret Reasons

When we don’t realize that it isn’t ALWAYS completely our faults that we are struggling with it, we are quick to guilt ourselves for it. We all know that Mom Guilt is a huge issue, there’s a reason why it’s getting talked about more and more.

So there can also be mom guilt that we tack onto ourselves because we see other people with organized homes and lives and think, “Why can’t I get it together?”

I myself do that a lot, which is how I was able to come up with these secret 10 beliefs and 7 reasons

I would encourage you, after you read this post please just really take it too heart. We need to be easier on ourselves about the right things; while still knowing when too discipline ourselves.

Instead you need to feel empowered instead of feeling guilty about the fact that we are struggling with organization for moms specifically.

Reason #1 – Why Organization for Moms Feels Hard

Reason number one is that you are taught wrong.

Reason number one why we struggle with organization as busy moms is that we are taught wrong. If we are not being taught to organize things in the right way, we are going to have a hard time maintaining what we just worked so hard to organize.

I want you to imagine with me for a minute. What would happen if you organize your home completely. You work from room to room over the course of a month or more. Organizing everything you can inside each room. You think “once this room is done, it’s going to be perfect and stay so much cleaner.”

But your family isn’t on board, and you yourself actually aren’t on board as well. Because although you are frustrated with how disorganized your home was getting, you don’t actually have the time to maintain it on a daily basis moving forwards.

What’s going to happen, is in a couple of months down the road everything is going to be in ruin again. Right?

Because you haven’t gotten everyone on board with the maintenance side of things.

So that’s why if we put all the work into organizing something without realizing that there is more of a step by step process behind doing the job itself and maintaining it after, then we can easily fall back into old ways again.

Reason number two is that you are told to focus on organizing the wrong things at the wrong time.

Reason number two that we struggle with organization is we are told to focus on organizing the wrong things at the wrong time. This is another reason that makes organization for moms feel frustrating.

We have to focus on taking the first right step, and then the next right step. When we just haphazardly organize what every we feel like in our homes, family or personal lives. You may not be in the right place to effectively make use of what you just organized.

If we have the right person helping us walk on this journey step by step, that has gone further up the path than us. But comes back down the path to help you. That person can help us avoid the things on the path that tripped them, hurt them or set them back. Because they are slightly ahead of us on the journey.

And if we follow a specific step by step, system where we organize the right things at the right time. We will have a way easier time maintaining everything and not getting overwhelmed and losing all of the progress that we just made.

So that is why when we are told to focus on organizing the wrong things at the wrong time, it can be really detrimental to our journey of organization for moms that we’re working so hard on.

We have to take into account a lot of things on our journeys that impact what exact path and steps are right for us.

And some of these things look like, what stage of life are you at? Do you have really little kids right now? Are your kids and spouse able to help you keep things organized in the way that you organize them in. What should you be focusing on at this current time in this current month or three months or year of your life?

Reason number three is that it can feel impossible or intimidating.

Reason number three why we struggle to with organization for Moms, is it can feel impossible or intimidating.

Deep down, we do know this. This is definitely something that we don’t think of, but then when we hear it, we’re like, “Oh yes, it is true. I am feeling a bit intimidated and don’t know where to get started.”

It doesn’t have to be impossible or intimidating. Because if we break it down into small steps that we work on every single day, it’s going to be way less intimidating.

Most importantly we are going to feel all those little accomplishments every single day that are going to give us the motivation to keep going.

Reason number four is that our habits cannot be expected to change overnight.

Reason number four why we struggle to get organized as busy moms is because our habits don’t change overnight.

We can’t expect them to change overnight. Our habits are a really integral part of maintaining organization. Whether that’s maintaining being organized in that planner that you just bought.

Or whether that’s maintaining the pantry organization project that you just spent a week, and a couple hundred dollars on containers for. Please don’t do that by the way. But you get what I mean.

So if we don’t have the habits in place to maintain all that hard work that we’re doing, everything is going to fall by the wayside again.

Especially if we aren’t actually ready to take that step that we just took.

Which is why I said in the other points that we can’t focus on the wrong things at the wrong time.

We have to be aware of what stage we’re at and then use that stage we’re at to determine what step of organization journey we are in. And then use building up slow, daily, consistent habits to get to that goal, to work from step to step.

Reason number five is that we have burnout or a lack of self discipline.

Then reason number five why we struggle to get organized is because of burnout and lack of self discipline. The task of organization for moms causes burnout? Who knew!

Jokes aside, this is because everything we do to make progress is always under constant threat of being undone thanks to our own habits, our families ‘help’ and the busyness of life.

Quite often what happens is you take on a big organization project, like for example organizing your family by creating a whole entire new meal planning routine. When you are done, you are so excited about it, and you did it. YAY!

But the problem is it took a lot of work, and you weren’t able to focus on anything else while you were doing it, so other things fell off track, like the cleanliness of your home or something, or maybe spending quality time with your kids and spouse.

So you can see how when we have these big organization projects, we are so focused on it, other things can fall by the wayside.

Consequently when that organization project is done; when your meal plan is done and you’re ready to start DOING that meal plan. You can feel so tired and so burnt out from all the work you just put into it.

That you can’t actually maintain it because you’re so tired. You think, “Oh, I did so such hard work over the last couple of weeks. I just need a break.” Which is fine and dandy, I feel you!

Unfortunately, that’s where the lack of self discipline comes in. If we aren’t disciplining ourselves to maintain all that hard work we just put in. We will soon find ourselves wondering why things fall apart.

Why we stop using the meal planner that we just worked so hard to do, or why we start throwing our groceries in the pantry haphazardly even though we worked so hard to organize the pantry.

We can be so tired from all the work that we can’t maintain it.

That’s why it’s so important to do things step by step. So that we aren’t creating so much burnout for ourselves and lack of self discipline because of the burnout that we can’t maintain everything that we just did.

Putting It Into Action – How to accept it is not your fault organization for moms feels difficult.

Step 1

I want you to write down what that reason was for why organization for moms feels hard for you. I want you just to write it down so that you can become aware of it.

Step 2

Then want you to think of a way to get past that so that you can get to the other side of it, if that makes sense.

Step 3

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Recapping the 5 Secret Reasons

Reason number one why we struggle to get organized as busy moms is because we are taught wrong.

We are not being taught how to actually maintain what we work so hard to organize or we aren’t being taught how to do it using a system or a framework. So we have a hard time actually. Getting all the steps done that we need to do.

Reason number two is sometimes we are told to focus on organizing the wrong thing at the wrong time.

When we’re just finding random organization tips depending on how we’re feeling that day. We might spend time and effort organizing something that shouldn’t be the priority at that time.

Our feelings can get in the way. You’re feeling frustrated by your pantry because you opened it ten times to cook supper and every time you’re feel frustrated because you cannot find what you are looking for.

So you ask yourself “How do I organize it?” Then we get so focused, laser focused on that problem, which is fine.

But if we aren’t actually ready to maintain that organization project, then please don’t start it.

You need to be taught how to focus on the right things at the right time for your stage of where you’re at.

So that you can feel success when the project is done, but most importantly accomplishment that you maintained it for more than a couple months at a time, right?

Because we don’t need more discouragement every time an nicely organize thing or space falls back into disarray.

That’s really what I’m trying to focus on here.

How do we feel encourage and uplifted instead of always, always feeling like we’re struggling with organization. How do we flip that around?

reason number three why organization for moms feels hard is it can feel impossible or intimidating.

This is especially true when things are not broken down into steps.

We quite often write down a project in our planner like this – “organize pantry.”

That’s not the right way to do it. That is too big of a step.

You need to take it little step by little step by little step in order to see success.

In order to be able to do all the steps properly, in order to maintain what you just did through habit building. And lastly, order to feel true success with it because you are maintaining this over the long run.

reason number four is because our habits don’t change overnight.

Once again, we need to use habits to maintain everything that we’re working so hard to achieve.

reason number five is burnout and lack of self-discipline

We’re so tired after a big project that we can’t keep it up. So we feel burnt-out and don’t have the energy to discipline ourselves enough to perform those daily habits that maintain what we just worked on.

The 5 Secret Reasons Why Organization for Moms Feels Hard, and Why It Isn’t Your Fault Your Struggling

I hope that this has been encouraging for you. Once again, these are just five out of many things that I have unearthed through reflecting on my own life of roadblocks.

That can come up when we’re struggling to get organized. It was on my heart to share these roadblocks in this episode, because they are not our fault.

But they cause us to feel bad because we aren’t aware of them at first. Making us say oh, I can’t get organized like what’s wrong with me?

So instead I hope that this has helped you to feel encouraged that – You can get organized, we just have to really dig at things and work at things and take it step by step.

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